Aimee Bender, American Novelist ( June 28, 1969 - )

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When language is treated beautifully and interestingly, it can feel good for the body: It's nourishing; it's rejuvenating.~Aimee Bender

Good Language Body

I like birthday cake. It's so symbolic. It's a tempting symbol to load with something more complicated than just 'Happy birthday!' because it's this emblem of childhood and a happy day.~Aimee Bender

Birthday Happy Day

I really like feeling connected to people and feeling like I have a good, solid sense of empathy.~Aimee Bender

Good People Empathy

Large meadows are lovely for picnics and romping, but they are for the lighter feelings. Meadows do not make me want to write.~Aimee Bender

Me Feelings Want

Generally, I think most of my writing tends to have some kind of magical element to it. That's the way I can access the emotional life of the character.~Aimee Bender

Life Character Writing

I liked Hans Christian Andersen because the tales were so dark and tragic.~Aimee Bender

Dark Christian Because

As a kid, I liked making up stories, and I wrote a story about a kangaroo and a bat with Christy Chang, and she went on to become a surgeon.~Aimee Bender

Story She Surgeon

Some creative writing programs seem evil, but my experience at Irvine was totally the opposite, where I feel like they were really good at focusing in on each writers voice and setting. When I felt like I was obligated to write a story that was more typical, no one really liked it.~Aimee Bender

Experience Good Creative

I don't eschew autobiographical writing, but I'm not interested in mine to be so straightforward. The things that tend to move me the most are often those that I have to figure out its meaning for myself. The human being's ability to make a metaphor to describe a human experience is just really cool.~Aimee Bender

Myself Experience Cool

I get a little myopic in the act of doing any writing. I think I'm not as interested or not as able to write about balance, because I think there's something I want to try to get at. I'm trying to get at something about the experience of growing up or about families.~Aimee Bender

Experience Balance Writing

For me as a person, friendships are incredibly important to me, but in writing, they can distract me.~Aimee Bender

Writing Me Important

I love food. I'm not a great cook, but I love to cook, and I like how different it is from writing.~Aimee Bender

Love Food Great

Novels are so much unrulier and more stressful to write. A short story can last two pages and then it's over, and that's kind of a relief. I really like balancing the two.~Aimee Bender

Short Story Kind

I'm obsessed with adolescence. I love to write about people in their 20s. It's such a fraught and exciting and kind of horrible time.~Aimee Bender

Love Time People

There's a spectrum of those moments of connection and the moments we fail to connect, going from super-large successes to failures. Success would be love, I guess, and failure could still be love, but the bad side; and loss.~Aimee Bender

Love Success Failure

I developed a prejudice in high school that it was all going to be boring. That kind of teenage, why-do-I-have-to-read-these-goddamn-classics feeling. And then you discover that the classics are classics because they're lively. They don't stick around because they're boring. If they're boring, they go away.~Aimee Bender

School High School Feeling

I love the idea of numerology, but I don't really believe in it. But I like thinking about what numbers convey.~Aimee Bender

Love Thinking Believe

I noticed, when I taught elementary school, how true the squeaky wheel thing is, and how endearing squeaky wheels can be! Because when you're being a squeaky wheel, you're also really letting people know who you are.~Aimee Bender

School People You

As a kid, I often figured it was good to be patient to a fault.~Aimee Bender

Good Be Patient Patient

I like the idea of a place that is dealing with painful, messy, frightening, and very human events that is also so beautiful and ethereal.~Aimee Bender

Beautiful Place Events

Writing can be a frightening, distressing business, and whatever kind of structure or buffer is available can help a lot.~Aimee Bender

Business Writing Help

At readings, audience members sometimes ask if I keep writing past the two hours if I'm on a roll, but I don't. I figure that if I'm on a roll, it's partially because I know I'm about to stop.~Aimee Bender

Past Writing Know

One thing I don't want to feel is marketplace pressure, so I'm really glad I enjoy teaching because I can rely on that for a salary. I think it would be such a different game if I had to write a book that has to sell well.~Aimee Bender

Book Game Enjoy

For me, even in my first book, the pleasures of writing anything magical is that it has to be physical. It has to be grounded and very much in this world. Then, I get to play with all the consequences of this new thing.~Aimee Bender

Book World Writing

I think teaching keeps me honest because if I'm up in front of a class talking about what I think is important about fiction while knowing I myself have just failed to do that hours earlier at my computer - it's a good and humbling reminder.~Aimee Bender

Myself Good Me

I did plays in college, and I have half of a play. But I'm kind of stuck. I keep revisiting it so maybe it will move somewhere. There's something about plays where you can feel that sense of artifice at any moment.~Aimee Bender

College Moment You